“We’re our own as well as our own heroes, and we have to rescue ourselves from ourselves.” - Tom Robbins
A small child looks at the people in their lives, and relies on those people to help them with their needs. They do not have the ability to meet their own needs. They rely on their parents or other adults in their lives to attend to their needs, and lift them out of bad situations. But as a child grows up, they slowly learn how to take responsibility for their own lives. They learn to take action, and prepare themselves for the real world. It is the growing process to prepare for the real world.
The problem is when adults spend a lot of time waiting for others to rescue them from situations they do not like. There is nothing wrong with asking for help and advice, but an adult cannot expect anyone to rescue them. Everyone needs help at some time in their lives, but if one becomes reliant on others to continue to rescue them in every situation, the person will never grow up and accept responsibility for their own actions. Nothing is handed on a silver platter. It is time to grow up and take action in our own lives; to give up destructive plans.
So how does one do this?
REALIZE: we always have the power to rescue ourselves. We are put in situations where we are faced with important decisions about the direction we want to make in our lives.
UNDERSTAND: NO ONE IS COMING TO RESCUE YOU. Stop waiting, your are an adult now. Waiting for a problem to solve itself only makes the problem worse, waiting for someone to swoop in and solve the problems you have simply won’t work. It is up to you to create your own destiny, relying on others can lead you down the wrong path. Seek advice from many people, but create your own plan according to what God has planned in your life.
TAKE ACTION: in moments of despair and “hitting the bottom” there comes a point in life where a person becomes fed up with their lifestyle. Then, the “Aha! Eureka!” moment arrives: YOU CAN RESCUE YOURSELF. This takes some steps:
- Recognize Your Own Power – By recognizing that you are the only one who can solve your problems (asking for advice is encouraged, and will help you find your original solution). You are giving away your personal power when you sit on your butt waiting for someone your “Rescuer”. You can handle anything that comes your way.
- Use Courage - Taking action when faced with barriers, demons, etc takes COURAGE!. But that fear is ok. The purpose of those “dragons” is to test us in ways that bring out the best in us. It makes us strong. You ARE prepared to the dragon; do not fear the dragon, fear what will happen if you don’t face the dragon.
- Have Faith – Sometimes you will have little else. When you are standing upon a ledge and it’s a long way down, sometimes the best thing to do is to jump. You may be surprised at how soft your landing is. Have faith in whatever god you serve (I know the God I serve) that He will guide you as you pick the pieces of your life up, and glue them back together. He will help you sort the puzzle pieces to lead you to His plan for your life: His beautiful masterpiece.
- Trust Yourself – You know best how to get to where you want to be. You just have to figure out where that is. The rest tends to unfold after that.
The next time that you find yourself hoping to be rescued, remember:
YOU ARE A HERO!
By Martha Armstrong